Should I have Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter? (For those over 35!)

We all fall into one of two camps concerning social media: Love or Hate. It seems to reflect our age group. Over 45, we scoff at it. Under 45, we treasure it. I had to face some facts years ago. I checked out as a “loser” when it comes to handwriting letters to friends & mailing physical pictures to family. Now, I’m more connected to family & friends than ever before! 🙂
Is it possible social media can be a gift? Or is this just another distraction in living a life of simplicity?
Um -both are “YES”.
 
1. Good: Connecting with family/friends from all phases of your life!
Bad : It can turn into a silly & sometimes harmful schoolyard comparison game. For women, this is a consistent challenge to remember our identity and not float along with what the virtual world defines as beauty. 

2. Good: The impact of a believer goes everywhere faster than you can say “post”! There are those who are not interested in attending church but will read through your post about your faith.
Bad: Like any ministry, you can’t weigh your worth by your “likes”. The minute this occurs, you battle exalting self and minimizing impact! Ask God to keep your heart focused on being His vessel and not a media pseudo-celebrity .

3. Good: Social media can bring color into lives, open minds to new ideas, & foster the sense of being “with” others.
Bad: Like any gift, we can forget the Giver. Though virtually active “with” people on line , we stay unfulfilled if our relationships with God and people are not cherished. 

4. Good: In a world of pain, it can be a welcome balm to our souls. A  “pushing pause” on our struggles.
Bad: It can cause us to check out of reality & relationships & move quickly to addiction. Social media (maybe all media?) addiction is real and is for all of us a serious problem. I have to discipline  myself and put my phone in another room for a couple hours at a time. Make time with friends a time of putting phones in a central location so you can enjoy your people! 

Bottom Line: Many of us “older” believers tend to toss out the baby with the bathwater. We are legalistic in our pride or “not being with the world”. On the other hand, many “younger” friends can become so saturated with the tech world, they truly cannot live without it.
Let’s walk in virtual health-staying in the Word, staying accountable to others, and staying in the game of present physical relationships.
Let’s thank God for this amazing gift of social media & allow it to draw us near to Him.
The Master of Ideas has given all inventions to man to be enjoyed and used for the benefit of others.  Go ahead …search, scroll, like, follow, tweet, & post all within the context of leaning into Him.
 
 
 
 
 

An Age-Old Prayer

Friends….

I had written this for the girls I discipled in the Spring of 1997. It remains my prayer for
all of the girls God has brought to me these last 20 years!

Powerful and Loving God, you have loved us and drawn us to yourself. You have shown us your love by paying the price for our sin. We could not pay this debt. May we recognize this spiritual secret! My hope for these women is that they would walk with you for a lifetime. There will be COST. Father, help them choose the harder way. Let them choose to follow when it hurts, when it’s embarrassing and when it divides.
May they not be satisfied with mere contentment in life. Let them SEE the invisible Kingdom…and REACH FOR IT. I ask that they would care more deeply for others than themselves. I pray that sharing the gospel with a lost person would be their life passion. Let them see the urgency! Let them not be distracted by things that promise fulfillment–material things, power and position, and even worse, love of self. Let them choose significance in YOU. Let them be thankful and fulfilled in knowing their identity in you.
I pray that they would read your Word, love it, and honor it by giving it TIME. Let them have honest time with you….not just consistent asking , but consistent worship as well. May they confess sin, KNOWING that the lack of confession can turn them into bitter women . May they cry out to you for immediate help when they are tempted toward sin.
In His POWER and not our own,
tris

The Preacher’s Wife

Sisters in Christ,

I hear from many of you about your current calling from God -that of being a Pastor’s Wife.  People will  ask you, “What’s it like to be the Pastor’s wife?” For me, these 3 things keep me focused! 

Identity Issue

Because we are  Children of the King, evangelism and discipleship are the languages we speak. Exhibiting love for others and conducting ourselves in a way that honors the character of Jesus.   We are missionaries first! There is no question we all have different spiritual GIFTS…some to give, some to serve, and some to teach. How glorious that Paul teaches that we are ALL to pray and  ALL to love!! Now, we get to add to our circles of influence through chats on marriage, children, and sharing our struggles!  WHEN WE WALK WITH GOD, we will love, lead, and impact well. 

Heart Honesty

We must ask ourselves, “”Do I find my significance in BEING a Pastor’s Wife?” or “Do I find my significance in BEING a “Daughter of the King”  whose value to the Kingdom is insurmountable? He will show you your heart’s motivation and give you power over insecurity and power over pride!

Only YOU can be you

You are called to be a “helpmate” to your husband and his calling as a pastor (loving the congregation pro-actively and serving where needed)….most importantly, to LOVE him.  He is your #1 ministry. If God gave you children (one of the ultimate gifts!) then this is your #2 priority. As my wise husband says, “Only you can be their mommy.” I want to look back and say “I gave them my “all” in the context of a healthy marriage example and love for Jesus!”

He has made you for this!  He will fill your heart with strength and joy !