How To Speak

Librarian Shushing

I bet you are like us-trying to raise kind, thoughtful, and strong kids.

Challenging ? Yes. Impossible? Not with JESUS. Worth it-totally! 

THINGS NOT TO SAY

1. Anything SARCASTIC. Sarcasm is the world’s attempt at humor by tearing another down and then applying the bandage of “Just Kidding!” I learned a quote from my hubby, “Sarcasm always contains a kernal of truth.” In every relationship, sarcasm leads one person to think, “Do they really think that?”

2. Anything DEMORALIZING about an individual’s appearance or behavior. Challenge kids to  turn away from this age-old (and socially acceptable) form of bullying.

3. Anything impugning AUTHORITY. The greatest example I can give my children is to respect God, my husband, the governing authorities in my life, and other people. We want our kids to get good jobs and have good marriages. The book of James is very clear. We can be, too.

THINGS TO SAY

1. Anything that is BUILDING. A great action verb! Let’s ask ourselves,”Am I an encourager?”. It seems like a discipline but over time,”verbal building” becomes a language. Ask your kids to write down 3 positive things about people in their lives. REHEARSING TRUTH CHANGES LIVES!

2. Anything that UNITES. Many of our kids are good at this. This is nearly natural. SHARED EXPERIENCES + SHARED GROWTH=DEEP FRIENDSHIPS. How can we foster this?Moms can constantly remind kids about these kinds od memories. This is the kind of postive habit that can heal.

3.Anything that LOVES. Maybe the greatest satisfaction in our children’s lives will be that they left a LEGACY. We want them to have a legacy that honors God, their marriages, their children, and their friends. A legacy of kindness is a legacy of reward.

God promises to give us His power to obey His commands. We can shape the next generation. No regrets, only rewards!

 

Ye Olde Christmas Exhaustion

It’s really true -our attitude toward stress shapes us more than the actual stress! Take ye olde “Christmas Exhaustion” for example. EVERY person I’ve talked to this month has been appropriately overwhelmed! This may seem weird but what would happen if we say, “Of course we are tired, so what? “ to our inner Grinch. What if we reframe our fatigue this way: “Yes, we’re freaked by what still needs to be done for Christmas. BUT since we love our families, we want to express it well.” Or “We’re grateful for our friends so we’ll go the distance to remind them of their importance to us.” Or “We are not turning away from the Salvation Army collectors this year. We will return their smile & give something. This helps people and it helps us!” Can we even imagine how that would change our holiday this year? It’s ok to be tired from Christmas prep-just ask God to remind you WHY you are tired. It’s for people & people matter to Him more than anything! #havesomecoffee #christmas#jesus #shopping #holiday #gifts #christmastime #gratitude #thankful#salvationarmy #lovewell #grinch