I bet you are like us-trying to raise kind, thoughtful, and strong kids.
Challenging ? Yes. Impossible? Not with JESUS. Worth it-totally!
THINGS NOT TO SAY
1. Anything SARCASTIC. Sarcasm is the world’s attempt at humor by tearing another down and then applying the bandage of “Just Kidding!” I learned a quote from my hubby, “Sarcasm always contains a kernal of truth.” In every relationship, sarcasm leads one person to think, “Do they really think that?”
2. Anything DEMORALIZING about an individual’s appearance or behavior. Challenge kids to turn away from this age-old (and socially acceptable) form of bullying.
3. Anything impugning AUTHORITY. The greatest example I can give my children is to respect God, my husband, the governing authorities in my life, and other people. We want our kids to get good jobs and have good marriages. The book of James is very clear. We can be, too.
THINGS TO SAY
1. Anything that is BUILDING. A great action verb! Let’s ask ourselves,”Am I an encourager?”. It seems like a discipline but over time,”verbal building” becomes a language. Ask your kids to write down 3 positive things about people in their lives. REHEARSING TRUTH CHANGES LIVES!
2. Anything that UNITES. Many of our kids are good at this. This is nearly natural. SHARED EXPERIENCES + SHARED GROWTH=DEEP FRIENDSHIPS. How can we foster this?Moms can constantly remind kids about these kinds od memories. This is the kind of postive habit that can heal.
3.Anything that LOVES. Maybe the greatest satisfaction in our children’s lives will be that they left a LEGACY. We want them to have a legacy that honors God, their marriages, their children, and their friends. A legacy of kindness is a legacy of reward.
God promises to give us His power to obey His commands. We can shape the next generation. No regrets, only rewards!