DOES IT FEEL LIKE EVERYONE IS DATING SOMEONE?

 

You are in a hard situation. I know. I remember it well-everyone dating or getting married. God had me wait until I was 27 before He brought my beloved, Brian. Brian was almost 31 when we married! We both had walked through the pain of loneliness as we waited for God to answer our prayers. We both had committed to waiting for not a “good” possible spouse but the “best” possible spouse He had for us.-if we would trust Him and His plan.  

How can we walk through the season of singleness that God has allowed in our lives? Because Jesus is the ultimate LOVE OF OUR LIFE, we have to start with the truth of His love for us.  After understanding His unchanging love for us, we can lean into His perfect will as we wait. It’s true. We all walk this road at some time. I think of 2 recent friends of mine just starting down the path of widowhood, or divorced single friends in their 30’s & 40’s, college women, and high school gals all in a season of learning to live alone. It helps to accept this stage of loneliness. Every human alive has dealt with this emotion. It can hurt, but it’s endurable by the power of the Holy Spirit.  Jesus was lonely, Paul was lonely, my widow friend is lonely. It’s hard when it seems like others are seeing their dreams happen while you WAIT.  I sit down & realize that JESUS is the only answer to my thirst and that He hears my prayers. Then, I actively trust.

  1.  REALIZE YOUR TRUE ETERNAL IDENTITY...You are not only a wife, girlfriend, “b.f.f.”, mother, CPA, CFO, or VIP. If you know Jesus Christ, you are a DAUGHTER of the KING. This is the ONLY identity that will STICK with you for the rest of eternity!   Everything else is transitory….every phase changes and all people change.  “JESUS is the same yesterday, today and forever”. Even if the world or other people change,  God keeps His promises. You are His and truly only His…forever!
  2.  STAY IN THE WORD AND HANG WITH LIKE-MINDED WOMEN.. Really & truly, there ARE women who don’t just talk about men, clothes, and reality television!   ASK HIM & BELIEVE BOLDLY for faithful, pure, and godly gal pals and then,  revel in the glory of the PERFECTION OF CHRIST with your eyes calmly waiting for opportunities but locked into Kingdom priorities. If it is His will (“good, acceptable and perfect”) He will be the Eternal Delivery Man and you will see His plan for your life unfold. Trust Him now…HE is building you from the inside out.